If you think joining your family for Thanksgiving this week is going to be awkward, you’ve got nothing on Michelle from Tennessee, who writes:
So if my dad divorces my mom to marry her twin sister, am I obligated to to eat dinner with them at a restaurant when his dying brother comes in from another state? I want to visit with my uncle, but think the situation is a load of crap and typically don’t attend events with the newlyweds.
I can see why you might have a teeny tiny problem with your dad marrying your aunt, but I suggest that if you can’t arrange a separate date to see your ailing uncle, you should overcome your distaste for the happy-but-wrong couple just this once and join the dinner. You have limited opportunities to see your uncle, but plenty more opportunities to snub your father and your stepmother-aunt.
Michelle’s supplementary question is, fortunately, a bit less like a Greek tragedy:
How many employees have to work in an office for it to exceed the office birthday party limit? We are up to 30 employees and it seems like every week we have to clandestinely contribute money for cake and sign a card. We get it; we all have birthdays. If I donate $2 per cake, I’ve spent more than just buying my own birthday cake and eating the whole thing myself.
Here’s a plan: every worker chips in to a cake fund from which, once a month, your office buys a communal cake. Anyone whose birthday it is during that month gets an extra-large slice, and maybe a round of applause. Sorted! (By the woman who works alone and therefore takes the cue for her office birthday celebrations from Tom Hanks in Castaway.)